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  • posted: January 18 @ 8:48am
In a sentence, i met vic nine years ago in the personals section of nerve.com. but that sentence doesn't begin to do us any justice.

nine years ago i was in London working on a project, plagued by insomnia. when you're only sleeping an average of three hours a night, you find yourself thinking of a lot of things. i realised that on the verge of turning 29, i was divorced, with two children i didn't see enough of, i had ruined three good relationships and was lucky not to take the friendships down with them too, i wasn't a prize catch and i was probably going to be alone for the rest of my life. i accepted that and decided it wasn't something that should depress me, i should just work on fixing me and making myself happy.

i had never been a big fan of personals websites, but the project photographer came back from LA with a copy from the short-lived nerve print magazine and during one of my sleepless nights, i read the magazine and then interest piqued, i went to the website. the personal section was funny and irreverent and featured areas you had to fill out like, best and worse lie you ever told and blank is sexy but blank is sexier. it was fun and it didn't have to be a meat market if you didn't want it too. i wasn't looking for a relationship and that was cool, there were other people on nerve that were looking email/im buddies as well.

i think you have two options when you meet someone online, you could lie like hell and soon or later, you'll get caught or you can be brutally honest about yourself, flaws and foibles writ large and if they can't accept that then all you've done is displace a few electrons.

each profile on nerve, had a two mandatories, a username and what amounted to a tagline. mine was a Raoul Duke classic "when the going gets weird, the weird turn pro" and vic's lured me in from the word go; "curiosity? poor cat." i was hooked, i messaged her immediately with my email address and less than a day later we'd exchanged im addresses. for the next six weeks we im'd all day and at least two hours a night, talking about anything and everything. basically becoming friends.

about a week before the 2000 Olympic Games were scheduled to begin i was on a plane heading to Miami with a plan to rent a car, meet vic and another person i'd been chatting with from nerve and go see a long time friend in MS. i got to miami and couldn't rent a car without a credit card, so i decided to continue my adventure by greyhound. i spent 22 hours on that bus endured strange people playing in my hair as i tried to sleep and arrived in Knoxville road weary and unwashed and wondered if this woman would take one look at me at the bus station and drive away, abandoning me to a strange city. vic didn't she got out the car and smiled at me. if there was ever a moment when i fell completely and totally in love with victoria, that was it.

i was supposed to stay four days, i ended up staying almost two weeks. the following January i drove 11 hours to propose and we were married a year later, almost to the day.

keifel a. agostini
curiosity? poor cat, march 13, 2009

here's to that beautiful, smart, talented woman that agreed to stick with me through everything eight years ago today.

Comments

Grower&Shower says:
That's a great story. Congrats on the anniversary.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 9:01am -
Ula O cealleigh says:
hahha!! i just read all of that :D
wow what a radical story and so amazing!!

when the going gets weird, the weird turn pro - ??WTF!!?? LOLOL!!!

keifel such a positive pathway you got onto there! but i love the fact that though you say you were down and negative slightly on a few things... like being single ect, ect... you were still "in London" working on "a project" lol.
cause from where im sat.. working on projects in london & flying to the usa are pretty top notch stuff to be doing still right??? =)
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 9:02am -
revgoomba says:
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaw!!!!!!!!!!! Wait until I show @Emma this tonight. She'll cry... she always cries at romantic stuff.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 9:03am -
Le Duncan says:
I love an honest story with a great ending. They don't always go hand in hand, but when they do, they can't be beat. Congratulations to you and Vic. I only know you through Whiskerino, and I've never met her, but if this story is any indiction, you two will be happy for a long time to come.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 9:29am -
Pip says:
Great story. Life's curiosities (especially those that yield love) are the most enjoyable things I can think of.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 9:38am -
cary norton says:
tldr king!
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 11:32am -
cary norton says:
(will read later, btw)
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 11:33am -
dizzywizard says:
Nice story
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 11:40am -
Jarrett says:
Great story!
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 11:58am -
Yogi Beard says:
That is a spectacular story. Congratulations.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 12:38pm -
jracecar says:
happy anniversary. great story.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 1:21pm -
tedford says:
in a word, beautiful.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 1:39pm -
michaeljstraub says:
Such a great story. Congrats Keifel!
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 2:18pm -
mu says:
congrats! nothing like a good woman. glad you got one!
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 2:27pm -
C says:
Amazing story. Made my old, crabby heart smile a bit...
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 2:30pm -
Mat Wiseman says:
Get a room you two.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 2:30pm -
Mat Wiseman says:
Oh, and that was one hell of a good read.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 2:33pm -
hale. says:
wow, absolutely amazing and so touching. thank you for sharing this.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 5:05pm -
Justin Will says:
What a great story! I am glad to hear another story that involves ims and chats online prior to meeting. It sounds reaaallllyyyy lame, but iChat was a big help for me. I would get so excited to talk to Nancy on there! We talked online for about 2 months before meeting. All the damn time.

But yes, wonderful story, and wonderfully written. You are always so wordworthy. Kudos!
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 5:46pm -
Andrew says:
man, this is one of the best love stories I've ever heard. I can totally see you getting off a bus, all stiff and stewing with the grime and cold sweat travel brings, hoping to god that she'd still reciprocate your feelings of hope given your current state.

going to be cool getting to hang with you next month
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 7:04pm -
cary norton says:
went back and read it. that moment where you fell in love sounds like a heartbreaker in the best of ways. congrats sir.
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 8:02pm -
Fofe says:
A really touching story and tribute to your wife and relationship. Congratulations on 8 years!
Posted: Jan 18th, 2010 - 10:44pm -
Ned Kelly says:
Congrats to you both! - truly touching
Posted: Jan 19th, 2010 - 2:45am -
miguelito says:
good stuff man. congrats
Posted: Jan 19th, 2010 - 8:06am -
Dave says:
great story!! Congrats :)
Posted: Jan 19th, 2010 - 10:09am -
johnatcollege says:
Man that's a great story.
Posted: Feb 1st, 2010 - 3:14am -
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